Proverbs 22:6 New American Standard Bible (NASB)
Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
1 Corinthians 6:18 New Living Translation (NLT)
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
I’m sure you’re thinking: what in the world do these 2 verses have in common? At first glance, nothing. Proverbs was written by Solomon to the people of Israel, in order that they may attain wisdom & discipline to obey God. 1 Corinthians was written by Paul to the church in Corinth to show believers how to live for Christ, despite living in a sin filled world. Knowing that, it is imperative that we merge both verses together in our hearts, so that we can train our children how to run from sexual sin.
If you’ve ever heard mine and Doug’s story, you know that, unfortunately, purity wasn’t part of our marriage covenant, nor did we run from sexual sin after we said “I do.” In fact, it almost destroyed our marriage. After we both began the journey of repentance, forgiveness & healing, God began to birth a strong desire in us to be completely transparent with others and especially our children about our struggles & failures with sexual sin. We believe that talking about God’s design for sex & how the enemy constantly wants to steal, kill & destroy it, we can better equip our children to make the wise choice of saving themselves for marriage. From a very early age, we began teaching our children about their bodies (by using anatomically correct terms) & how God made them to fit together perfectly with their future spouse. We also had many opportunities to discuss where babies come from with our older 2 girls, because we had 2 more children after them! The older our kids became, however, the more we saw a need for planned teachable moments, so I began to search for Christian books about sex. I not only wanted a book to contain scripture about God’s beautiful design for sex within marriage, but I also wanted the facts & consequences of those that choose otherwise. My sister suggested the “God’s Design for Sex” series:
As we’ve read & shared with others about the conversations we’ve had with our children, we’ve heard many comments like:
“I can’t BELIEVE you talked about THAT with your kids.”
“I could NEVER tell my kids the truth about THAT!”
“I can’t even talk to my SPOUSE about sex…how in the heck can I talk to my kids about it!?”
These statements have revealed a disturbing trend among believers: Shame over past sexual sins is keeping husbands & wives in bondage. And, as a result, their children are left unprotected from the enemy’s plans to steal, kill & destroy their purity.
The only way to stop this epidemic is for couples to begin the journey of repentance of sexual sin, forgiveness & healing through Jesus Christ. Only then, can they begin to train their children in the way that they should go…
Not sure how to being the journey? Seek a godly mentor and ask them for help.