Dance Lessons

Psalm 37:23-24

23 The Lord directs the steps of the godly.
 He delights in every detail of their lives.

24 Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.

Last night I experienced my first couples dance class, along with 10 other people in our small group. While our instructor taught us the essentials of the waltz, fox trot and swing, I couldn’t help but see a few similarities between the dance lesson and some of the lessons I’ve learned about marriage:


Dance Lesson #1:

The man MUST take the lead- but he cannot force the woman to go where he wants. Instead, he should gently guide her where they need to go.

Marriage Lesson #1:

God designed the man to lead the woman- and their children. However, if the man tries to force his wife to go where HE wants, he may experience great resistance- and the relationship will not be life giving for either of them.


Dance Lesson #2:

The woman must have good tone (pressure) placed against her partners ‘saddle’ (area above the bicep, but below the shoulder), his hand that she holds, and his hand that is placed upon her back. If not, she will miss a step….. or get stepped on!

Marriage Lesson #2:

The woman must have good tone when she speaks to her husband. If her words are pushing him to go the way SHE wants, she will most likely get her toes (feelings) stepped on.


Dance Lesson #3:

If you don’t listen to the voice of the instructor you won’t know what to do! And, if you can’t hear the rhythm of the music, you won’t know when to begin the dance or be able to keep in time through the remainder of it.

Marriage Lesson #3:

If you don’t listen to the voice of THE Instructor, you will find yourself and your spouse on a dance floor you don’t belong. If you cannot hear the rhythm of the Holy Spirit you won’t be able to take the steps necessary to go where He wants you to go….in the right time.


Dance Lesson #4:

If you don’t trust your partner, you cannot dance.

Marriage Lesson #4:

If you don’t trust your spouse, you cannot be one.

As my husband and I circled the dance floor last night there were several occasions when my feet weren’t keeping up with the rhythm in my mind! Seeing my frustration, Doug whispered, “do you trust me?” “Yes,” I replied….then he gently led me back to where I needed to be- and we quickly resumed our dance.


We’ll be married 18 years on the 18th of this month. I’m sure there are plenty more lessons to be learned about what it means to be husband and wife the way Our Instructor created us to be. Perhaps we need to sign up to take another dance class to find out what those are!?

One thought on “Dance Lessons

  1. I love the way you connect your experience dancing with your husband to your lessons learned in marriage. I just stayed following your blog and enjoy how you incorporate so much scripture into your posts. Thank you for sharing your journey!


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